The other night I was ordered out of the house by the hubby and my new dear friend Dez. See they think I work too much, I do too much for everyone else BUT myself. Pshaw whatever gave them that idea I don't know.
I found myself enjoying a little ladies night and having a great time. What made it so great was that at different points in the night I found myself having some incredible conversations with some amazing women. Made all the more interesting because I found myself having one on one conversations that strangely enough ended up with familiar themes. The first part of the evening was spent talking about just how nurturing women can be especially in times of struggle. How complete strangers can swoop in to save the day even in our darkest hour as it did for one woman I spoke with who is going through breast cancer treatment. Later on I had a conversation with a friend about self worth and how sometimes it can be so difficult to feel your a worthy recipient of a good deed.
Things came full circle when I talked with Jamie about how I had to say goodbye to a friendship recently. That life no matter how hard I've fought it has just pulled me in a very opposite direction. That no matter how much either of us wanted things to be different it just became too painful as we were constantly hurting one another. She told me about how there are people who are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. As intense as connections may be they always have a purpose and sometimes that purpose runs it's course. It was an expression I had never heard articulated so well, and I thought it was just lovely. Just like Jamie.
The next day I opened my e-mail to find a friendly forward from my friend Melissa's mom and it read.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong -doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life
It's amazing how magical life can be sometimes isnt' it?
2 comments:
Oh Frances. This was very meaningful to me. Last year, I had a friend break off her friendship with me because of some of our differences. It has been very painful and I often ask people who are friends with us both how she and her family are doing. I haven't heard from her at all and I know I should just let it go, but it's hard when you care about someone. Thanks so much for this post. It helped me feel better. Thanks!
I know how hard it can be, I've been on both sides of that. I'm glad that it helped you feel better (as it did for me as well)
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